If you have anything you need to bring up, go ahead and do that now, too.
People also change their minds over time. Your boyfriend’s answer now (especially if you’re both young) might not be his answer in a few years.
If you’re both young, there’s no reason to rush your decision. However, if you’re dead set on having kids and your boyfriend doesn’t want them at all (or vice versa), you might have problems in the future.
If your boyfriend wants to have kids, he might also want to be a stay at home dad while you take on the career.
If he doesn’t know how to answer the question, you can get a little more specific with it.
Connecting with family members can be tough when they live far away. If your boyfriend’s family is out of state, consider video chatting with them regularly so you can get to know them more.
For example, if you see yourself living abroad and traveling and he sees himself settling down with kids, you may need to talk about it more.
For instance, if you save a certain amount of money every paycheck but he spends all of his, it could lead to frustration. Talk about your future goals and how much money you’d like to put away to achieve those goals.
If you two aren’t having sex yet, you can talk about your intimate relationship instead. Hugging, kissing, and cuddling are all forms of intimacy that you might need more or less often than your boyfriend.
Oftentimes, people want to stay near their family members.
If you’re in debt, you should share that with your boyfriend, too. Being completely open and honest will help him feel less afraid to share his monetary status.
